You Are Not Alone

I would like to dedicate this to some friends that are going through some tough times right now. Remember these words and read them again and again if you need to. Know that you have people that would do anything for you. I’m one of your people that would do anything for you.


Faith: firm belief in something for which there is no proof, complete trust. Do you have faith? In yourself, in others? Do you believe in something, whatever that something is with absolution? I do. I believe in me. I believe in people, I believe in my husband, but above all I believe in our marriage.

Hope: desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment. I have hope as well. Do you? I have hope that one day my family will be together. I have hope in people and believe that they have hope as well. Hope is always ignited and burns in a person's soul.

Kindness: tender and benevolent affection. Share this, and share it often. Kindness is not something that should be bottled up and kept away. It is something that you openly give to others and to yourself. Be kind to one another. Be kind to all. Have kindness, but know that like a bird it must fly to be truly happy. A person cannot cage kindness.

Love: strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties. The Beatles said that love is all you need. It really does seem to make the world go ‘round. Love, it drives people into madness, or can comfort them on long, cold, dark nights. Love is what I see when I look into my child’s face, and love is what I receive when my husband holds me close.

These are my four pillars. My “things” that make me who I am and make me get up and face each day. My Jeremy will be leaving again for places that are far away. I have friends that will be sending their husbands away too. When I got that call today from my friend who was crying; I wanted to cry with her. I’m so sorry that your husband has to deploy sooner than anticipated. I know that this is the life that we chose and you will be strong and make it through this deployment, but remember this dear friend: you are not alone. Stand up and say it out loud! “I am not alone!!!” Pre-deployment trips will be canceled and family time will seem forced and strained, but you will not be alone. You will hug him so close and pray more than ever for your husband’s safe return, but you will never be alone. When someone stops you and thanks you for his service and your sacrifice, you will smile and be polite, and in your heart you will know that you are not alone.

Hold onto these attributes, dear friend, hold onto them until you feel like they could break. Know that faith, hope, kindness, and love will never break; they will bend to your will and always be what you will need. Keep faith, hope, kindness, and love with you, and you will be fine. Remember these four words, You Are Not Alone. None of us are.